What women want…

Women no longer are looking for their “Knight in shining armour”. They have discovered that once ‘snagged’ that knight takes on a parenting role….. big turn off! Women are no longer satisfied with putting up with the feminine mystique that once abounded in our mothers era. Women no longer wish their spirit to be tamed and owned by a man.

Although … they will give you their heart and soul if you know how to take care of hers.

Our mothers had little choice and little resources available to them to explore their potential as forces of power in society. It was ‘safer’ to find a good husband and be supported guided by that ‘good husband’ even if the wife had gainful employment.

So what are women looking for these days? (consciously or subconsciously) The desire is DESIRE. Women desire someone they can desire and be desired by. Women are discovering that they actually have more power over their life than they imagined and much more power than their mothers ever dreamed of. Women want to be able to follow and achieve their desires and not just romantic desires. Women are looking for a change in culture.

Women are finding out they actually have …..

…..erotic power….

A women’s erotic power is not in her seductiveness and her skill, beauty and deliciousness that turns men heads and gains wolf whistles. It is not in the sleekness of her instagram posts that gain lots of likes and followers. It is not in her body shape, her bra size, her anatomy of her clitoris in relationship to her vagina.

Erotic power is the ability to tap into a life force. This life force is a source of not only a powerful energy, it is also a source of creativity, intuition and confidence.

A woman does not actually need a man to tap into her erotic power although it makes the journey so much sweeter and can magnify her desire and cultivation of her own sexual energy.

The quickest way to take beauty from a flower is to pick it and put it in a vase for you to admire as your own. Just like flowers women are wild and they blossom when admired in their natural environment. They love the sensation of your nose coming closer to smell their essence. They love your words and admiration describing their beauty.

They wilt when you pick them and try to arrange them in your vase for your pleasure. No matter how many changes of fresh water and admiring words, the flower will wilt and die. Yes it was going to anyway out in the field, but it’s life is shortened in a vase.

The vase is a container of conformity designed to keep the flower in its ‘place’ in society. The flower arrangement is a set standard of how you wish the flower to present for yourself and for others to admire.

The vase limits the flowers freedom, it’s energy and it’s natural cycles that are closely tied to the sun and moon.

Similarly, dolphins and killer whales who are kept in captivity display signs of their fin, which is usually upright, starting to droop. The theory is that in captivity their strength is diminished. The dolphin and the killer whale need space to flow with thier desires.

Flowers wilt in captivity and dolphins fins ‘wilt’ in captivity. Can you see the parallel here with women in relationships that have the energy of ownership and containment?

Women need space for their desire to grow and to be expressed. She needs freedom and space to explore what ‘grows’ her and what nourishes her.

So what do women want from you?

………to love and support her erotic power. Freedom to express her erotic nature without your insecurity or judgment. She wants you to tap into your Eros, your sexual energy, your creative genius so that you can flow together, side by side in sensuality.

She wants you to receive her, just as she is, in whatever emotional flow she is in, knowing that her rage, her fury, her disgust will be met with the open strong hands of her ‘Eros’ waiting for her to melt once more when the storm passes.

She doesn’t want your containment, she doesn’t want to to rescue her or to fix things for her. She wants your desire, she wants to express her desire for you, she wants you to share your deepest desires and feel safe enough to share hers with you.

She wants your sensuality, the fullness of your masculine to slide up against her softness, her engorged desire for you…..

She wants to make magick….. with you.

She doesn’t expect you to understand her or her magick. She wants you to enjoy her magick and the fruits of it. She wants to express her deep feminine nature, her feminine power, her sensuality on the beautiful open, receiving canvas of her man.

She wants to flow…. she wants to be in flow at her own pace…

She doesn’t get excited by to do lists or instruction manuals or rule books. This is what a ‘good girl’ adheres to. This is what the dolphin in captivity is trained to do. To jump through hoops and perform for another’s enjoyment. The dolphin looks like it is having fun ….. but have you actually seen dolphins in the wild? They don’t need to be trained to have fun. Their nature is to jump and somersault and dance in the waves.

“Good girls” are not ‘turned on girls’.

She gets excited by being in the moment, she gets excited when she is in her ‘Femme Fatale’. She wants to live from her ‘turn on’…. from her free spirit, from the wild dolphin spirit within her.

She wants to be immune to the stress and hustle of the materialistic world because she has seen and experienced something beyond this. If she has known orgasm and sensuality then she knows that there is another realm of being. An altered state that can be accessed only from fully inhabiting her sensuality and it is here she has access to her erotic genius.

yes yes yes….

are you brave enough to partake in her magick?